Comments on: Wedding Season 2008

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Wedding Season « The Life of Erin — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 13:53:14 +0000

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By: LAMoneyGuy

LAMoneyGuy — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 20:24:01 +0000

Well, my big day is around the corner. As someone on the other side of things, I’ll give my take. The desire to cut the list without offending people is a constant battle. Even if these are folks near and dear to your heart, they won’t be offended by a “regrets” by you. Go if you really want to, but don’t feel obligated.

From a $$ POV, if you can justify the cost of attending in terms of your “travel” budget, then do it. If it is above and beyond, or takes away from your preferred travel, send a nice card and a check.

By: My Dollar Plan

My Dollar Plan — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 04:31:53 +0000

Weddings are so expensive. I kept thinking once all my friends were married we would save a bundle! However, now that we are all having kids instead of getting wedding invites we get baby shower invites.

By: Mrs. Micah

Mrs. Micah — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 21:57:27 +0000

Hmm. I haven’t gotten any yet. Strange, but ok…last summer was crazy, 3 weddings in 4 weeks and one of them was my own.

As for etiquette on paying for your BF…it may depend on the options available, how your relationship is, how much he can afford, etc. It’s definitely something you should discuss.

I remember when my backup guy got a steady girlfriend. I mean sure, it was a joke all along and there was no real chemistry. But I was kind of sad. I told him I released him. Plus then I got married…

By: Vixen

Vixen — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 21:02:10 +0000

My cousin is finally getting married this June (she’s 37 and her life’s mission has been to get married). She’s planning on just having a maid-of-honor, but wants my sister and I to wear bridesmaid dresses because she wants us to do the guest books! My sister is sixteen and is nearly crying that she isn’t a bridesmaid (she had been told she would be a year ago). I just want out. Why buy an expensive dress if I am just doing the guest book? Furthermore, I don’t want to do the guest book. At all. I’ll be twenty-two by then and that sort of thing is normally left to girls a decade younger than me. I just want to be a guest. That’s all.

Besides all that, I’m actually excited to go to a wedding. Heh.

By: Msminiducky

Msminiducky — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 20:10:31 +0000

Agreed about the bridesmaid dresses. In the case of being part of the wedding party, I might agree with dogatemyfinances in not bringing the new boyfriend to all the parties, but not necessarily if you’re just a guest.

BoyDucky didn’t mind not knowing anyone at the few weddings we went to early on in our relationship, he just liked getting the two of us gussied up and out together.

I resolved my quandary about best friend’s wedding last month by using miles to get BoyDucky’s airfare. Is that an option? We also do a my friend/your friend thing with the gifts. We handle the gifts according to whose friend it is. Perhaps you could do the same with the travel?

By: Dogatemyfinances

Dogatemyfinances — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 01:02:18 +0000

At least there are no bridesmaid dresses. Those are the worst.

As for your boyfriend’s expenses, I find that weddings like that–long-time friends–are more fun without a new-ish boyfriend. You can just enjoy your friends like old times and there’s no pressure on him to be fabulous/spend money/feel awkward/be briefed on all the inside jokes. Let him pick one wedding, and he will be relieved, I bet.

By: feministfinance

feministfinance — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 00:57:50 +0000

No advice, just commiseration. And maybe this will make you feel better: when I told a good friend of mine Shiner and I had decided to get married, he looked at me with barely controlled panic and said, “in 2008?” Apparently he had been told to expect invitations to THIRTEEN weddings around the country in 2008. Ours is in 2009, but really early in the year so I don’t know if he’ll make it with costs and vacation time and all. I would really love for him to come, and would miss him if he doesn’t, but I’ve got a heart. I know it’s just really hard to make this stuff work when there are so many right in a row.